disability ministry weekly round-up {1-15-12}

Did you learn anything new this weekend? As for me, I learned how to feed a child through a feeding tube so we can support a new family at our church. (While we don't provide medication on Sunday mornings and ask parents to do that instead, in children's ministry we treat feeding tubes the same way we treat bottles of formula we may have to mix: it's a feeding need, albeit with different mechanics.)

And on to the posts for this week...

Registration for my church's February 11th respite event: If you're in the area, please join us! Note that the main button at this link is for families to register, while volunteers will register by clicking the word here in the line "Volunteers may register here."

Today I Learned Something About Down Syndrome: This isn't a new post. It's over a year old. But it's a powerful account of a man working through his fear of the unknown to see the humanity of a woman with Down syndrome. (Favorite line: "This time I noticed her nametag." I would rather know someone's name than their diagnosis, wouldn't you?)

When Prayers Go Unanswered: Julia Roberts (no, not that one...) explains in this post why she struggles more with answered prayers than unanswered ones.

Your Presence is Requested - 2011 Reflections Jackie Mills-Fernald, the director of Access Ministry at McLean Bible Church, shares what she has learned through a tough 2011 about ministry, programs, and relationships.

D6 Press Release: I'll be speaking at this conference in September on special needs ministry as family ministry. Here's a bit more info!

Great sites for therapy ideas for kids with special needs This post has great info for parents, but it's also helpful - to a point - for ministry leaders. I say "to a point" because implementing special needs therapies isn't our job in the church; sharing the gospel so that all may treasure Christ is. Some sensory tools, though, are technically based in therapy but are also useful - and for some kids, crucial - for creating a welcoming environment.

Tempted to fear? APTAT This post, written by John Knight and pulling largely from a sermon by John Piper, provides a biblical way to deal with fear as a parent of a child with special needs. And don't miss the follow-up: Bitter or angry? APTAT

Is your church listed? Or are you a family with special needs looking for a church? 3 lists of disability ministries If you saw this post of mine early on Thursday, you might have missed one addition. I know these listings don't include all the churches who are welcoming to people with special needs, so please get the word out so that families know that there is a place for them in the church.

Tough topic, yet sensitive responses from Amy Fenton Lee at The Inclusive Church:
Here's one post from a blog I just found, written by a special needs ministry coordinator in California: The Church's View of Mental Illness, and Mine I'll be blogging about a second post of hers later this week.

Should we teach the Bible to those with severe cognitive disabilities? and a follow-up here: Two posts from John Knight (and don't mind the richness of the comments on the first one!)

As Christians, knowing isn't necessary (and it's ok to ask) Yep, another from John Knight. Really, I probably could have titled this post: A week of John Knight's blog, plus a handful of other posts.

my husband, the comedian

Alternate title: Because some things just don't fit on the other blog, you get them here.

(By the way, I do have intentions of posing here more frequently, as we're winding down home projects in anticipation of selling our house to move elsewhere in the City of Oaks. No promises or timelines, but I've missed this place. anywho...)


I showed Lee this logo and told him I liked it.

He said, "You have the love for wheelchairs?"

"No, no, no..."

"You love people who are seated?"

Sigh. Eye roll.

"Oh, I see it. You used to have love and then someone sat on it."

"Just go away. Now."

"I, too, am available to speak at conferences!" he boasted proudly, assuming a Superman stance (minus the cape, spandex, and letter on his chest, of course).

To which I, in true tongue-in-cheek Ephesians 5:33 Proverbs 32 fashion, responded, "I wonder why you haven't been asked to speak at any yet."

Unperturbed, he confidently replied, "I am undiscovered talent."

VIDEO: How my church made Christmas count (including our December respite!)

This year, our church had a series of opportunities for families to serve our larger community in various ways. We called it "Making This Christmas Count." I'm not sure if it'll become an annual thing, but I sure hope it will.

This video highlights three of those outreaches:

  • Respite Night: three hours of free childcare at our church for families whose children have special needs
  • Gifts of Grace: kind of like an Angel Tree thing in which members bought specific gifts, and then families in need were able to come "shop" from us one night, and 
  • our December downtown Saturday morning outreach: we provide a meal once a month in an area in Raleigh where people who are homeless tend to gather 


Making This Christmas Count from Providence on Vimeo.

Is your church listed? Or are you a family with special needs looking for a church? (3 online lists of disability ministries)

Looking for a church that welcomes all people, regardless of ability? Wanting to get the word out about what your church is doing? Interested in other churches in your area that are engaging in special needs ministry? Then check these listings out...

Joni & Friends website
Joni Eareckson Tada is one of the longest-serving and most-respected disability ministry leaders, and her organization has on online listing of churches offering special needs ministry. Here's the listing for my church. Here's the link to search for a church by zip code (just scroll down until you see the search box on the right side of the page). And here's the link to go to if you'd like to register for an account so that you can add your church; in order to post your church, you need to agree to their statement of faith, found here (though note that you don't have to print and sign that form, even though it looks like you do; agreeing online is sufficient).

Autism Speaks resource listing
Autism Speaks, in addition to the other work they do, has a list of community resources on their website, and one category is "Religious Resources." You can view our church's listing here, and you can find other listings by going to this page, clicking on your state, scrolling down to the list titled Community and Support Network, and clicking on "Religious Resources." To add your church or organization to the listing, go here; you get to describe what you offer in 500 characters or less, and the resource will post after their Family Services team approves it. If you have any questions about their listing, email me and I'll can put you in direct contact with Ali, the Communications Manager for Family Services.

Interfaith Disability Network "Worshiplink" database
Here's another listing. This isn't limited to Christian churches and ministries, so if you're a parent looking for a place to worship Jesus, take note that you will find churches listed there, but you'll also find synagogues, temples, and mosques. I haven't added our church, but I am about to do so by following these instructions from their website: "If you are a faith community and would like to be added to the database, please e-mail: Mark@Interfaithdisability.org."

Any others?
If you know of any other listings for churches, please let me know and I'll add them to this post!

How can you use these listings?
If you have a disability or have a family member with special needs, these are good listings to check in your church search. (It could even help you find a church to visit if you're out of town on a Sunday morning.) If you are a ministry leader, you can add a listing. You can also turn to the listings to find out about other disability ministries in your area so you can network and learn from each other.

And, finally, see these lists, and be encouraged. Christians care. Churches are welcoming. Christ's love is being shared with and the gospel being proclaimed to all people...regardless of ability.

what never gets old? telling a family with special needs, "YES, we would love to have you come to our church"

I shared this on Facebook Sunday night:
I love the excited flutters I get whenever a new family with special needs contacts me about coming to our church and I get to say, "Yes, we would LOVE to have you join us!"

Never. Gets. Old.
When an unexpected email shows up with a parent laying all the diagnosis/needs cards on the table and then asking, "Can we still come?," I get to say yes. I am thankful that the pastors and others leaders in my church share my excitement and are willing to work with me to figure out what it looks like on our end to support each "YES!" answer I get to give.

I love what I do.