"unless you are a member of a...specific church..."

I found a promising line buried in an article about a thrift store started by two entrepreneurial parents of twin boys with autism. You can see the boys in the picture to the left. Their momma said that for families affected by autism "unless you are a member of a specific school or specific church, there’s nothing there."

I'm saddened that these families have little community support.

However, I'm greatly encouraged that churches in her community are seen as places of support and hope for families with autism (and other special needs).

My prayer is that this may that be the truth for all churches in all communities!

That, my friends, is why I write this blog. To Him be the glory.

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I won't be posting my weekly disability ministry round-up this week, but it will return next week. It usually posts on Mondays, but I've been enjoying the blessings of family in the past few days. I hope you have had that same opportunity!

disability ministry weekly round-up {12-19-11}

Happy Monday! I'm going to start things off with a personal question of mine, because I know I have several mommas and dads of kids with special needs who read this and because I know asthma is more common among those with disabilities: Any tips for someone newly diagnosed? (And, yes, that newly diagnosed gal would be me, possibly due to lung complications of rheumatoid arthritis.)

And now on to the links for the week...

Things God does with tears Good reminder from John Knight.

26 Sensory Integration Tools for Meltdown Management Helpful for parents and churches.

“We do not look to what Michael can do here in this life, but instead look to the One. . .” Touching story of a church body welcoming a young boy - who happens to have a disability - and his family in a fourth grade Advent candle tradition.

Bearing false witness against thy neighbor (with Down syndrome) Insightful article juxtaposing the commandment not to bear false witness and the biased, incomplete, and dangerous information often provided to parents when their unborn child is diagnosed with Down syndrome

God Only Gives You What You Can Handle? I guest-posted last week on SupportforSpecialNeeds.com, and I linked to it then. Today I link to it again because you'll want to return to read the comments (and maybe even join the conversation yourself!).

What is a Champions Club? Sam Luce gives a great description of one model of special needs ministry.

Special Needs: You're Not Forgotten Anymore A challenging and helpful guest post by Craig Johnson on KidMin360.com about why and how to do special needs ministry

And ministries that are welcoming people with disabilities and their families...

Why I don't like the saying, "God never gives you more than you can handle"



Two days ago, I had the privilege of guest posting at supportforspecialneeds.com. I am thankful that Julia gave me the opportunity to do so, but the question she posed was not an easy one: "Do you have a spiritual perspective on why children have disabilities? Does God choose particular children/parents?" Here's the beginning of my response and a link to the full post:



I am bothered by cute little quips like “God never gives you more than you can handle.”

Not only is that sound bite found nowhere in the Bible, but it also portrays a weird image of God. That saying makes it sound like God is a sort of cupid, taking aim with his bow and pausing each time to consider, “Hmm, is she strong enough? No, not at all. I’ll let her continue to live a blissfully easy life… but, ooh, that one. He is strong enough. Let me grab the arrow labeled ‘have a disabled child’ and shoot it straight at him…”


To read the rest, click here

And if any of you want to read my friend Katie's post on the same topic, you can find it here.

Thank you, Julia, for inviting me to share a Christian perspective on disability!

And the winner for Different Dream Parenting is...


Barbara, I'll be in touch to get your address, and your copy will be in the mail THIS WEEK!

If you didn't win, I do recommend that you buy a copy. It's currently $8.72 at Amazon* (though prices change often there, so check for yourself!). Here's the review I wrote if you'd like to learn more about the book.

And here's another picture of my two sweet helpers, Jocelyn and her handsome assistant Robbie. (Yep, that's what happens when you tell a four year old to smile!) She put all the cards with names in her pony bag and then covered it all with her Cinderella blanket "so I can't even peek and cheat when I pick, Mommy!" Nevermind that she can't read and that she doesn't know anyone who entered. :)


Congrats, Barbara! I know it will bless your ministry.


*The Amazon link above is an affiliate page that will allow a portion of the sales for this book (or anything else you buy during that shopping session) to go to my friend Sandra to help offset the cost of her son's therapies and supplements for autism. Amazon does not offer its affiliates program to residents of North Carolina, which means I can't benefit from it, but I *can* use affiliate links from my friends in the special needs community to let you provide for some of their needs while you shop!

a follow-up: a few last thoughts on disability and heaven

Will any aspect of what we know as "disability" exist in heaven? I wrote three posts about that topic last week, but one comment deserved a post and not just a comment in response. Before I blog about that, though, here are the posts from last week:
In response to the last post, I had several comments, one specific that I wanted to respond to here:
I would have to disagree with this author's conclusion. In the Bible we are told in Phil 3:20-21 "For our citizenship is in heaven, from which we also eagerly wait for the Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, who will transform our lowly body that it may be conformed to His glorious body, according to the working by which He is able even to subdue all things to Himself." This is one of a few passages I believe there are that say we will have a new and glorified body in heaven. To me, this means that we will have bodies unaffected by sin. Bodies on this earth have disabilities BECAUSE of sin (the fall of man with Adam and Eve). Some of the people this blog quoted as saying "God didn't make a mistake with my daughter having [insert disability here]- they are right, God did not make the mistake. It was the genetic code or neural connections when the body was being formed that make the mistake. And why? Again, because of sin entering the world. Are these people telling me that if there had been no original sin, physical and mental disabilities STILL would have eventually existed? I doubt that is so.
I'm thankful for this comment, because it has several points worth discussing. First, it was an oversight not to include those verses in my first three posts on this topic. We do know from those verses that we'll have new, glorified bodies in heaven, and while we don't know exactly what the differences will be between the "lowly body" and our transformed ones, we know God is good and perfect in all he does.

I don't think, though, that the transformation from a lowly body to a glorified one would absolutely require for every aspect of every disability to be scrubbed away. His glorification could be just as much about changing the rest of us and our culture to include people who are not of the same tribe or tongue or label as changing them to fit better with us.

When I picture heaven, for example, we're all speaking English. Why? Because I speak English now as my native and primary language. Does that mean we'll all speak English in heaven? No, it just means that my current context is affecting how I picture heaven. I think it could also be that our current context of people without disabilities can affect how we think about disability.

I do think, though, that we will all be "able" in heaven. Disabled, in the meaning "not able," won't exist because glorified bodies are all able. However, could someone with a social disability that is disabling in our current culture be more able in the society of heaven that isn't looking down on, insulting, or excluding that person? It's worth considering.

As far as using the sin/fallen world argument, I agree that original sin - which has resulted in each one of us continuing that cycle, as all of us have sinned and fallen short of God's glory - is the reason for suffering today. However, I don't think it's right to say that disabilities are the direct result of sin. Suffering, yes. But not all parts of a disability induce suffering. When Christ was asked in John 9 by his disciples, "who sinned that this man is blind, him or his parents?" Christ didn't say, "Well, actually, Adam and Eve did, which set into motion a fallen state in the world and that's why this dude can't see." (Obviously, the "dude" part wouldn't have been in the King James version.) No, he said that it occurred that the works of God might be displayed in the man. Yes, it could be that Christ was pointing toward the eventual healing of the man later in that chapter, but even so, he discounted the sin reason for disability in his response.

I'm not saying that I think disability will exist in heaven. And I'm not saying it won't either. I'm just saying that this is a conversation worth having, and I'm thankful that anonymous commenter joined in the conversation.